Controversial Post is Controversial

I generally avoid confrontation as it makes me uncomfortable.  However, like most people, I have opinions that I like to express.  I try to avoid doing so on social media, so that’s what I have a blog for.

Feminism is not about equality, and in reality hurts women.  Now, I know some of you are thinking that I should have to turn in my woman card for such a statement, but hear me out.

I like being a woman.  There is no part of me that wants to be a man.  There is no part of me that wants to deal with what a man has to deal with.  I can ogle men without being labeled as a “creep”.  I can talk about my vagina without being thought of as a sexual predator.  Hell, I get to take twelve weeks off of work when I have a baby without anybody thinking twice about it.  I can go where I want, do what I want, and not be questioned in my own home.  I can cry without being thought less of.  I can also get angry without being thought of as a threat.  If I get really angry and hit my husband (not that I ever would), people would likely think it justified.

Women have so many advantages.  There’s definitely a one sided lean to those advantages, too.

Why do “modern” women feel the need to complain about all the “injustices” they see?  I, for one, have never felt that my options for birth control were limited.  Nor have I ever felt that I have been paid less than a man for doing the same job.  I have yet to see any first hand accounts of either.  And, honestly, even if any such accounts were presented I’d wonder what the other side of the story was.

We, as a society, have a tendency to jump to conclusions.  Whenever I see this happen (read: at least 1,000 times a day on Facebook), I want to giftwrap a Jump to Conclusions mat and send it out to all of those who can’t see past the tip of their nose to realize that there are at least two sides to every story, and each side believes as fervently in their rightness as the other(s).

Did you know that the pilgrims originally settled over here to get AWAY from Europe?  There was even a big war against England and everything.  So why, now, 250 short years later are we trying so desperately to be JUST LIKE the continent our forefathers left behind?  Geographically, the US is much larger than most (all) European countries.  What works there most likely cannot be implemented here due to the sheer size of land we cover.

Look, everyone has opinions and yours are just as valid as anyone else’s even if they’re wrong.  You have just as much right to express them as anyone else.  Did you know that not every country has that?  That women in some countries are ACTUALLY oppressed?  That, in some cultures, if you’re cat called it’s your fault for drawing attention to yourself rather than the fault of those doing the cat calling?  If you’re a woman walking down the street and get cat called, maybe you should just pepper spray your offender.  After all, as a woman you have a whole lot more leverage to do so than a man would in the same situation.

Did you also know that in the case of child custody the woman will win more often than not?  A man has to prove that a woman is unfit to raise a child, whereas a woman simply has to show that she’s not on drugs to make sure a man only gets to see his kids four days a month.

So why DON’T I need feminism?  Because I like having more power than men.  I like being in control.  I like my husband to open doors for me and pull out my chair for me.  I like being domestic while at the same time being able to have a career.  I like balance and roles, and I feel that feminism takes away my power as a woman.  At least modern feminism does.

One last thought:  78% of statistics are made up.  Don’t trust one sided sources for your information, no matter what side they lean towards.  Anybody who can’t respect the fact that other opinions exist and have some validation cannot have a respectful or intelligent debate.

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